Having a date night can be a great way to put a little love back into your relationship.
It doesn’t matter if you’re going through a bit of a seven-year-itch or you’re this close to calling it quits, a date night can be a huge win for your marriage once it’s done right.
Unfortunately, making date night mistakes of monumental proportions, such as the ones listed below, can spell disaster for your efforts to save your relationship.
Here are 4 date night mistakes you should avoid making if you want your relationship to get back on track.
Cancelling/Rearranging Date Night at the Last Minute
Cancelling date nights is a big no-no. Unless someone has died or is about to die, this is the last thing you would want to do without a really good reason.
Whenever you cancel date night, you’re essentially putting whatever reason you cancelled it for before your marriage.
Stuff happens. Sitters quit or cancel and you’re left scrambling to find an alternative. It’s better to do the additional scrambling than to deal with the romantic and relationship fallout due to a cancellation.
The same things goes for rearranging plans at the last minute. Once the sitter is lined up and dinner plans have already been made for the evening, last minute arrangements serve to do more harm than good for the date night cause.
The bottom line is that if you’re not going to take date night seriously, it’s better to not plan to have it at all.
Bringing Work Along On Your Date
Whether it is in thoughts or in deeds, bringing work along on a date, not only kills the mood but it also breeds resentment.
In a lot of marriages, constant work is a problem. People get divorced because they’re married to workaholics. Your spouse may feel left out because it seems like you’re putting work before your family and when you bring work on a date, that resentment blows up into a deep and simmering rage.
It’s just another nail in the coffin of your relationship in many ways and one that can be easily avoided one night a week.
Spending the Entire Night Discussing Family Problems
The reason you’re having a date night in the first place is to get away from the mundane issues that are troubling you both.
Date night is a time to focus on each other. Leave the kids, parents, in-laws and outlaws at home where they belong. You want this to be a genuine “feel good” opportunity. Don’t waste that opportunity by bringing bad vibes into the evening.
Falling into a Date Night Rut
Whatever you do, don’t turn your date night into a monotonous routine by doing the same thing week after week.
This is your opportunity to add a bit of fun and excitement to your relationship. Don’t risk it by doing dinner and a movie week after week. Switch it up a bit and see what a difference it makes not only in the excitement it brings but also in your partner’s response to date night.
You can make a date night “bucket list” of things you would like to do on date night together and have fun granting each others date night wishes.
Date night can be as exciting or as boring as you allow it to be. Promise yourself and your partner not to let your date night become a run of the mill experience that’s easily taken for granted.
Do this and your marriage is sure to become one where you do not take each other for granted either.