Breaking up with the girl you love can be especially tough if it wasn’t your plan. In these cases, different men will have different ways of handling such unexpected breakups.
Some men will do almost anything in their quest to get their girlfriend back. They will jump through all kinds of crazy hoops, beg, make deals and come close to stalking in an effort to get her to come back.
Other men simply tell themselves that maybe the breakup happened for a reason and move on with their lives seeking greener pastures elsewhere. At least, that’s what they do in time. It may take a little while to accept things the way they are before putting their heart back on the line and get back to dating again.
But there are still others who would like to ride off into the sunset with the girl that got away, but have no idea what they should do to make it happen. More importantly, they want to get her back but they don’t want to have to jump through hoops to do it.
Fortunately, jumping hoops really isn’t necessary to get her back. In fact, it isn’t recommended. You don’t even have to do the chasing. You’ll be surprised to learn just how simple it is to get her to come back to you.
Here are some things you could do to make it happen.
Don’t Call Her
Sounds simple enough, doesn’t it? After all, it requires no action on your part. What it does require, though, is that you dedicate yourself to keeping it this way. That’s not so easy when your every instinct is telling you to go after her.
It’s the primal male drive to conquer all threats to life, limb, and overall happiness. You want to make her see the light. You want to show her how good things can be between the both of you. You want things to be the way they were.
Chasing the girl down might make her swoon in the movies. In real life you’ll probably get a restraining order. Give her a little time to work through her own emotions and take a little time to really think about whether things really were all that good (for both of you) the way they were.
Make Small Changes at Home
You don’t have to completely change yourself and become a new man. Doing so can take too much effort on your part.
You can, however make at least a few small changes in your appearance. Girls really do notice these things.
Consider something simple for a start like teeth whitening to brighten up your smile.
While getting a full gym membership may not be on your radar, consider lifting weights at home or doing one of those dvd workouts in your spare time. Or maybe take up basketball for a little firming and toning – maybe even skip that second beer at night or cut back on the pizza.
Small changes don’t require that much effort but they can deliver some big results.
Wait for Her to Come to You
Believe it or not, the world is small. Once people start noticing the little changes you’re making, and believe me they will, word will get back to her. Women are curious creatures. Not only in the sense that men have a hard time understanding them, but because they like to know what’s going on.
It will drive her insane with curiosity that you’re doing so well without her. She’ll want to know why you’re looking better, getting together with other people, and making changes for the better in your life – even little changes get big attention in today’s world.
Don’t be surprised when she calls you or “bumps” into you just to see what’s different. She’ll be desperate to know what’s going on. That’s when it’s really time to work your magic. All you need now is the right thing to say to convince her she was wrong to walk away.