Getting Back Together In the Movies – Why It Doesn’t Work That Way

Dear John © Relativity MediaWe’ve all seen the movie cliches in romantic comedies. We’ve seen the over the top antics performed by many  a protagonist that either ends up with him running through the airport just as he girl is about to leave or with them making up in the rain.

It usually happens like this.

Boy meets girl. Boy falls in love with girl. Boy breaks girl’s heart. Girl breaks up with boy. Boy tries to be a hero which sometimes ends up with above cliches just to win her heart back.

The problem with this is that there is one person who is writing the script for both characters which means they’re playing pre-defined roles and following cues. It usually has to end up perfect and in a way that is interesting enough for the audience to appreciate.

Real life doesn’t quite work this way.

Lack of Originality

Unfortunately a lot of guys just didn’t get the memo. Using moves that have been used before in these movies won’t score you any points because most girls already know about them.

The target audience for these type of movies are usually women so it’s more likely they’ve seen the moves and it will just look like you’re trying too hard.

Your ex doesn’t want you to copy something that has been done before. If you’re going to try to make a move, do something original or unexpected. It has to be something that isn’t out of character – something that YOU would do. It has to appear sincere. Using movie lines that she’s heard makes her feel as if she’s not important enough for you to do something original.

Your Situation is Different

Every relationship is different. So is every breakup.

All breakups have elements that separates them from other couples and makes them unique. You can be having the same arguments as 50,000 other couples around the world  but there are things about your situation that make those arguments unique.

The reason for your breakup doesn’t matter. Your situation is still going to be different than Maverick and Charlie’s (Top Gun), Joe and Kathleen’s (You’ve Got Mail), Harry and Sally’s (When Harry Met Sally) or Pat and Tiffany’s (Silver Linings Playbook).

You need to take the time and effort in coming up with something that is unique and specific to your own romantic situation. Most importantly, it needs to be something that would matter to her and melt her heart.

Consider These Alternative Endings

Of course, this only applies if you’re going for movie magic effects.

However, you could consider doing something different altogether. Something she may find curious and very unexpected. You may even say shocking.

You could choose to just let her go – at least for a little while. Instead of going after the girl, give her a little time to think about things. This will also give you some time to think as well.

We all know the saying “absence makes the heart grow fonder”.  This is a proven statement especially if the feelings before the breakup were genuine.

After a little time has passed, chances are you won’t need to call her. She’ll end up calling you. When this happens, you will both be able to enjoy a happy ending far better than anything Hollywood could come up with simply because it’s the story that belongs to the both of you and no one else.

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