It may seem like the most impossible task on the planet to get your girlfriend back. However, it really shouldn’t be. Most guys make it a little tougher than is necessary.
It’s not entirely your fault though. See, there’s a whole industry, Hollywood movies in particular as well as the makers of fine jewelry , chocolate and greeting cards, that lead you to believe that this is the way it is supposed to be. Nothing could be further from the truth.
In fact, once the girl leaves, the average relationship may seem irrevocably broken, but there are still some simple tips you can follow that will really help you to get her back.
Here are a few things you should remember if you really want to win her back.
Stop Living In the Past
Turn of the century American author, Alice Morse Earle once wrote:
“Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That’s why it is called the present.”
Living in a relationship past robs you both of all the joy that can be had in each day you spend together in your relationship. Now that she has left, however, it can rob you of a clear perspective on what you need to do at the present moment in order to save the relationship and make it work this time around.
Become the Man YOU Want to Be
For many men, this is a difficult one. It is something you probably haven’t given a lot of thought to.
Bruce Willis starred in a great movie called The Kid. It’s about a grown up man who is confronted by his eight year old self. In the movie, the eight year old was horrified at the man he had become saying, “So, I’m forty, I’m not married, I don’t fly jets, and I don’t have a dog? I grow up to be a loser.”
Sometimes, there is wisdom in those childhood echoes. You may have given up on the idea of flying jets (who really ever gives up on that one though?), but it doesn’t mean that you can’t take the steps to become the man you want to be, even if it does involve learning how to fly a jet.
The initial step is to decide who you want to be. Then you must tackle the process of becoming that man.
How Does This Help You To Get Her Back?
Life doesn’t always follow a movie script. It may take a little while to really get her attention.
But once you start making noticeable changes in the man that you are and stop trying to relive a past that wasn’t as picture perfect as you might remember, you will be able to gain a new outlook on the future.
One thing is certain. Once you become the man you want to be, the here and now, the PRESENT, is something she would want to be a part of.