One of the biggest questions on your mind since the break up happened has been “how do I get my ex back?”
I have been there and I can remember asking the same question to myself over and over again. In fact, this was the only thing on my mind for weeks after the break up.
It’s quite understandable. Depending on how long you’ve been together, you’ve shared a lot of your life. It’s tough to just walk away and act as if it never happened.
The odds are good that your ex is in exactly the same position as you and isn’t walking away unaffected either. The only difference is that your ex has been thinking about this for a while and has likely prepared for the break up in terms of the emotional side of things. People don’t just walk away from long-termed relationships on a whim.
If you’re having a hard time deciding if the right choice is to walk away or to fight to get back with your ex, then the following questions will help you make up your mind.
Is the Love Still There?
Before you even make a single attempt at trying to win back your ex, you need to know the answer to this very important question.
While you can only guess how your ex may really feel, you can, and should, explore your own feelings in depth before you make the next move.
If the love isn’t really there then you should not waste your own time and energy and that of your ex by trying to rekindle something that simply isn’t there anymore.
Is The Relationship You Had Truly Worth Rehashing?
Most relationships have their fair share of ups and downs. Successful relationships have far more ups in them than downs.
Take a good look back over the course of your entire relationship. How do the ups compare with the downs? Were the good times really good? How bad were the darkest days? Are you willing to experience them again if necessary?
How Far Are You Willing To Go To Make It Work?
If you’re going to make the relationship work this time, you have to be willing to do whatever it takes.
It is likely that your ex is going to throw in a few tests and pitfalls along the way and that is is they’re even willing to give it another go. Be prepared for these tests and ace them with flying colors. Don’t even think about letting your ex see you sweat.
The willingness, however, goes a lot deeper than passing a few tests. You must be willing to make a few vital changes for the sake of your relationship. You aren’t likely to know what they are though, until the moment arrives. Just be prepared. Some of the changes may not be all that simple to make.
Most importantly, however, is your willingness to be the one to wait. This is often the toughest and most necessary part of winning your ex back.
It makes all the difference in the world to wait for the right moment. If you want to understand when that moment is and be prepared with the ideal strategy to turn it into a prime opportunity then check out the Magic of Making Up.