You don’t need a fortune teller to tell you when your relationship is getting stale.
If you’re reading this, it probably means that you may have started to see the signs and your intuition tells you that something is wrong.
There are lots of warning signs of a break up and if you can pick them up, you won’t have to say that you didn’t see it coming. It will also give you a chance to fix things before they get out of hand.
Here are some warning signs to look for:
Warning Sign #1 – Not Calling
Before, your partner used to call just to say they loved you. Now the calls are becoming less frequent and when you’re expecting the call it doesn’t come at all.
Not calling is a sign that your partner has lost interest in communicating with you and you’re on your way out.
Warning Sign #2 – They Criticize Everything
It seems now that you’re never able to do anything right and you cannot please your partner.
How come they’re being so brutally honest all of a sudden? Your feelings may not matter much anymore.
Warning Sign #3 – Conversations Become Less Personal
The conversations become less about me and you unless they’re complaining but more about general stuff.
You want to talk about the future, about being together, owning that house but they find ways to avoid talking about it or keep their responses very sparse.
Warning Sign #4 – Constantly Fighting
You’re constantly fighting and arguing especially about little things.
Your partner may well be doing this intentionally so they can have an excuse to get away. Constantly fighting may lead to, “I cant do this anymore” and “I think we should see other people” and the classic, “I need some space.”
Warning Sign #5 – Less Time Spent Together
You and your partner are spending less and less time together where you used to spend time with each other.
They suddenly cant make it for lunch or they’re doing something Saturday or have to work late. Whatever the reason, you don’t get to see them as often as before.
This may also be for some of the other warning signs outlined. You spend less time because you’re constantly fighting and so on.
Warning Sign #6 – They’re Always Busy
Spending time with you isn’t a priority probably because they don’t enjoy the time with you anymore or possibly because someone else is occupying their time.
You get a lot of excuses, apologies and maybe even promises that they will make it up to you.
Warning Sign #7 – Major Changes in Their Appearance
A 180° change in style can mean that they’re spicing up themselves to someone else’s liking.
She dyed her hair and cut them short – thats not even her style. Well, out with the old an in with the new. Why not get a new boyfriend too?
He got a new tattoo and he knows how much you hate those. Who cares what you think anymore.
How To Deal With a Breakup Before It Happens
Just because you may see one of these signs doesn’t always mean that you’re looking at the front door but if you see a couple warning signs then you should definitely brace your self for what may be coming.
Breaking up is hard on everyone involved. If you’re interested in hanging on to your relationship, then the best solution is to prevent the breakup from happening in the first place.
Taking action to prevent a breakup can save you both the heartache and the long recovery and reconciliation process. More importantly, it can help to prevent a lot of the damaging words and actions that’s bound to come up before they even happen.
But how do you really stop something that seems almost inevitable?
Back in the early 90’s a guy named John Gray, Ph.D. wrote a book called Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. You may have heard of it. The book spent an unprecedented 121 weeks on the bestseller lists because of the concept was so simple yet it seemed so foreign.
Men and women have the Mars and Venus issue when it comes to communication – they both communicate in different ways. What one person says (or intends to say) is interpreted by the other in a much different way than it was intended.
This miscommunication often causes the perception of problems or issues in the relationship that only exists in the minds of those two people.
That is why learning to communicate effectively is so important for the sake of your sanity and your relationship.
Discover Your Love Languages
Everyone has a love language that bests sums up the way they express love and the way they best FEEL loved.
These love languages include:
- Words of affirmation
- Physical Touch
- Quality Time
- Gifts of service
- Receiving Gifts
When you take the time to understand how you best feel and express love in comparison to how your partner best feels love and expresses love, you can save a lot of hurt feelings, cold shoulders, disagreements and dish flinging arguments throughout the course of the relationship.
Learn To Speak Your Partner’s Love Language
People don’t only have a bit of a hard time feeling loved by partners that speak different love languages. In some cases, they have difficulty accepting love in that particular language.
This can lead to feelings of alienation, confusion and inadequacy for partners and this is usually what starts to hurt your relationship.
Learning to accept the love your partner has to offer while also learning to show love in the manner that will make your partner feel loved and cherished are equally important components when it comes to love languages. They are just as important as being able to make your partner feel the love you have.
Love languages are great but they do take time to work with and to become effective tools for saving your relationship from a break up.
There are other options to consider if you need more immediate results.