No matter how down and out you feel about your break up, you need to understand that is is not completely your fault why things didn’t work out.
It doesn’t matter what your ex tries to convince you. It takes two people to make or break a relationship and it will take two people working together to put it back together again.
This is something that you need to understand and you should ask for things to change before you get your ex back.
These are the reasons why you deserve much better in the future.
You Bring Value To The Relationship Too
In a relationship, you both have a role to play and a contribution to make. You both bring something unique and special to the relationship.
The key is to learn to value your own contribution to the relationship and ask for the things you need that you aren’t getting out of the relationship.
It is also just as important that you ask your boyfriend to do the same and that you listen with an open mind when he does.
He’ll Respect You More For It
Respect is very important for men. They love being shown respect and love it even more when the woman they love earns their respect.
He wants to be proud of you. He also wants to be proud to be associated with you. When you stand up for yourself and asks him to show you the respect you deserve, he will be a bit surprised at first, but much more likely to respond than if you never asked.
Respect is a Two-Way Street
It is important that you show your man respect. If you plan to keep your man happy and make the relationship last then this is one of the most important things you can do.
But you also need for him to show you respect. Do not accept anything less than the respect that you deserve from him. If you’re willing to go back to him then you’ll need to be very careful if he isn’t willing to show you that respect.
Respect that isn’t earned should never be given and it should also not be sacrificed just because of love.
Because You’re Worth It
Back in the 1980’s, cosmetics company L’Oreal used the slogan “Because You’re Worth It” as a way of reminding women everywhere that they deserved the very best cosmetics and hair care items because of their roles in the home, on the job and in relationships.
Although the slogan is still alive today, the message has been lost among a large segment of women who apparently forgot that they deserve respect.
You’re worth it! Seriously. Say it out loud. “You’re worth it”.
Whenever tempers flare and disrespectful words are uttered just remember these words and demand better for your future.
It isn’t enough to go back to the way things were before the break up. You deserve better this time around. To get better, you need to put your foot down and ask for the things that you want in the relationship and expect to get them this time around.